What Drug is Charlie Sheen on? "The Charlie Sheen Drug"

Hey Charlie, When will you know you have arrived, when you get your sitcom back?  Think again.  If that were the case then you wouldn’t have screwed the show up in the first place.  Why did you let this happen?  Why don’t you tell us what you really think of yourself rather than beating up everyone around you?  By the way, when you are abusing others, you are abusing yourself.  What is missing in you that you needed to destroy the biggest success in your life? It seems to me that you feel so bad about yourself that you have a self-fulfilling prophecy to let the whole world you are just that, really bad.  Why do you want to hurt yourself and others so much?  You may be mad, damn mad but you aren’t the victim here.  Not in this case anyway.  Maybe you were at some other time in your life, hence, so you feel a need to victimize everyone else, but not this time.  You behaved horrendously; an offensive rant against your producer got you what you deserved.  You’re not indispensable.  No one is.  You are letting your ego dig you a very deep hole here.

 Happy people don’t do drugs to elevate their moods.  They are naturally joyful.  They don’t hurt people because they realize that we are all connected and that although our journeys may be different, we have a respect for one another’s individual paths and don’t harass, hurt or abuse them.  Abusive people like yourself are anything but happy; you are acting out to get attention.  Screaming for it, in fact.

Charlie Sheen may be a media phenomenon at the moment but at what price? The “I can’t look but then again, I can’t look away” mentality is what contributes to the downfall of our society.  Why would we want to watch him self-destruct?

 These are the questions I wish someone would ask him if he is not “well” enough to seek help.  Why can’t he stay straight?  What does he loath about himself?  If he won’t deal with AA or those that love him, who is willing to stick their necks out to point the hurt and sad little boy in the right direction?  AA teaches that there is a higher power; surely he doesn’t believe he is the higher power.  He knows exactly what he is doing.  He is demanding attention and he’s getting it.  That is power.

  Is our society so sick that we need to watch such a sick man for entertainment?  His father is right, he is ill just as though he had cancer, so treat it the same.  If a man had cancer, would the details of the growth be all over the news for entertainment?  I think not.   If he can’t or won’t grow up, shouldn’t we, the healthier ones do our part not to contribute to this crap?   Every time we watch and listen to Charlie Sheen we are enabling his behavior that is clearly toxic.  But why and for who’s benefit?

He’s a troubled man.  Period.  He may have gone from star to meme, but there is a sad man inside. He’s clearly intent on destroying himself.  That is the real core issue.  Hopefully, America’s appetite for excess isn’t endless.  There are limits even for celebrities.  Hopefully the rest of Hollywood will treat him like a narcissist and addict should be treated; simply do not enable his behavior.   Just like when a dog begs for food at dinner, you don’t even look at the dog.

What is so damn sad is that he has so much money that he has the luxury of getting the best care. 

If we are not part of the solution, than we are part of the problem.  What the media is doing for him is giving him permission to behave badly while condoning it.   I’m hoping people will get bored fast.

He keeps talking about winning.  Winning what?  He’s lost his kids and his mind.  He’ll accept a wink from any bimbo that will give it to him.  Anyone that will pay attention to him gets to move in and spend his money.  If any of these women really cared about him they would file a report if for no other reason than to get him help.  If he’s abusive to women, he will be abusive to his children. 

 Charlie Sheen is plain and simply out of control.  He’s glorifying drug use.   I would guess that his cavalier attitude isn’t going to be welcome for long. 

It’s a sad, sad story.

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The Invitation is Just for Today - Coming Home to You

My lunch is in the washing machine and my clothes are in the refrigerator. 

Life moves fast.  These days the way we keep in tenuous touch is with facebook and twitter feeds.  Being fully present seems to be a celestial thought.  Well, consider this.

If we could just allow ourselves to slow down enough to the beat of our hearts rather than the beats of the business meeting, we might just find an authentic connection both with ourselves and others.

Just for today, I invite you to slow down….be a witness to your breathing and  be present in all your interactions.

Just for today, I invite you to ,whatever your beliefs are or have faith in, take the time to meditate, pray, be quiet, to come home to you.

Just for today, I invite you to put aside what you are going to say before the person you are communicating with finishes their last sentence.

Just for today, I invite you to stamp out memories that could confuse the present moment.   

We are not losing time when we take the time.  We are gaining valuable insights into ourselves and those we love.  Being fully present allows us to empathize with another.  Being fully present allows us to put aside judgments.  It allows us to put aside control and bring our heart, mind and body into the moment. 

Inspired.  Good. Please confirm your attendance for today.

  

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Do You Have a Psychic Vampire in Your Life?-Developing a Healthy Relationship with you

You know them, and they know you.  That’s right. Psychic vampires.  They know where you live.  They know you live by the rules of being nice, offering a helping hand, having compassion and they take full advantage of it.  They sneak in quietly and SUCK THE ENERGY RIGHT OUT OF YOU.   Because they know they can.  They know that your boundaries are weak and they can cross the line.  And even if you get mad, they know that they can come back, do it again and you will let them back in.

 They take all your “energy juice” leaving you dehydrated, disoriented and even sick.  Exhausted.

 Do you know one?  If you do, ask yourself this.  Why do you spend any time at all with this person?  Because it’s a friend, relative, or partner?  Not a good answer. 

For your information, no is a complete sentence.   Here’s a spine-tingling thought. Say no to someone you always say yes to.  See how it feels.  How do you feel now?  Afraid?  Ask yourself why.  Confront the fear if that’s what it is.    No reason for guilt.  It’s a useless emotion unless you have done something that you know is dead wrong. 

  Staying away from people who rob you of your energy is not wrong.  In fact, it’s humanitarian.   Why pretend that the behavior is OK?  Who are you serving?  Ask yourself this; does it serve you to let others take your energy when you could be doing something fabulous with it?  Removing yourself from the vampire tells the him/her that the behavior is not acceptable and is giving the person a chance to step up to the line.  

Inspired?  Good. Now fasten your seatbelt and get going.   E-mail me because I want to know what you are doing with all that energy now that  the psychic vampire has been given walking papers. 

"Never miss an opportunity to make others happy, even if you have to leave them alone in order to do it." - Author Unknown

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24 Hour Crash Course…Five Steps to Dealing with A Slap in the Face

He is most powerful who has power over himself…Seneca

You’ve been here.  Life is going along just great and then in a matter of minutes the phone rings and you’ve been rejected.   You heard right.   Shocking news. You don’t believe it.  Feels like a slap in the face.

 You got a visual?  Good.

When we feel rejection, it can seem like it’s all about us; but most of the time, it isn’t about us at all.  Doesn’t matter.  You immediately feel that grip in your belly and you can actually feel the facial muscles drop.  You feel like nothing is going right in your life; you feel criticized, judged, can’t decide if you are sad or mad.  Doesn’t matter, you feel like crap.  Your feelings of worth are shaken. Here comes the downward spiral.   The self-talk starts getting out of control. 

Years ago I worked for a company that sold.  I was in crisis.  I was making a six- figure income and I couldn’t imagine working for the new owner. I tried but the hours were getting longer and the pay shorter.  I knew where things were headed.  It seemed so unfair.  All I wanted to do was complain about the bad deal I was just dealt.  A friend simply said to me, “You are putting your energy in the wrong place.  You are wasting valuable, precious time. “  It was a turning point for me.  How would I make it on my own?  I could either crash or deal with it.  I left the company and started my own business.  It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done.   And, I never looked back.

Let me tell you this.  Life is ever changing.  Nothing stays the same.  If we go through life gripping at what we have, pretending that we have control over unforeseen circumstances, we will be forever disappointed.  We absolutely have control over how we deal with a situation.  We can either respond or react.  We don’t know when a tough break  might come, but it’s our attitude that determines if we look at a setback as a catastrophe or as an opportunity for growth.  Boy did I grow! Whenever I start feeling like things aren’t going in the direction I expect, I remember that time in my life and how I rode that wave instead of choosing to drown.

  Here’s my 5-step plan:

Step 1-Give yourself a full day to whine, complain to anyone who will enable you, eat junk, refuse to be nice to yourself and fully engage in licking your wounds.  You are entitled, after all, to treat yourself anyway you like.  I like to sing in my head, “It’s my party and I’ll cry if I want to” by Lesley Gore. It actually begins to make me laugh(always a good thing when you need a lift) It immediately begins to shift my feelings.  You have now given yourself adequate time to feel. 

Step 2

At the end of the day, tell yourself “Tomorrow is a new day; it’s got to be better than today”.  Seems like a no-brainer but in the heat of the crisis, we forget. By saying this, it already starts to feel less catastrophic. A cellular change actually happens when we shift our thinking.

Step 3-Next Day - Get up.  Take a deep, deep breath.  Take 10 minutes to write your thoughts down in a journal.  Remind yourself of five things that are fabulous about you. I mean it.  Don’t move on to the next assignment until you do.   Now,  write ten things that you are grateful for.  Make time to work out whether it’s going to the gym or taking  a 45 minute walk with your dog(nature is a wonderful healer) and then thank yourself for taking care of you. It is a scientific fact(no news here) that exercise is a huge stress reliever.  Yoga is also an awesome option.  I got certified several years back and it was one of the best things I ever did for myself. Although I don’t teach yoga any longer, I love to take a yoga class, particularly when I need to self-soothe.

Step 4-I am a big believer in the Laws of Attraction.  While exercising, question why this happened and what good could come of it.  Really.  What is it that you can take away from this?  How can I grow from this?

Step 5- Listen to your self-talk.  What are you saying to yourself? If you need to shift it, do so immediately.  It will not serve you in any way if you speak negatively to yourself or serve you to internalize a lasting sense of failure.

Life is full of ups and downs.  This is no news to you.  I am not minimizing your feelings.   But how we ride the roller coaster is totally our choice.  Really.  Some of us know this.  If you didn’t know this, you do now.  Believe me.  We are in charge of where we go.   How you get there is up to you.  Take the challenge. Change your attitude.  You’ll be thrilled you did.